Dear Diary, Does it Really Work Out in the End?

With a new month beginning, Hayley and Kayli thought it would be great time for some reflection and life updates. The month of May is usually pretty busy with the school year wrapping up and graduation ceremonies popping off. It has been a year since Hayley and Kayli have graduated from college and boy, is that weird to say! This week, we’re going to do a deep dive into what’s on our minds. Have we finally figured out what we’re doing with our lives or are we still struggling? Read our diary entries to find out!

Check out our podcast episodes where we get real about life: What is Life? Yes, We’re Negative

Hayley:

Dear Diary,

Time sure does fly when you’re underpaid and struggling at your entry-level job! This past year has gone quicker than my paycheck after rent is due. I turned 23 yesterday and was happy to hear I am still considered in my early twenties. The thought of me being mid-anything is terrifying so I am going to hold on to this year as if it were my last.

With all this being said I think I’ve learned a lot about myself, and life. I’m not necessarily where I would like to be but learning what I don’t like is just as important as learning what I do like. Sitting at a 9-5 job all day is not what I had envisioned for myself but I’m gaining valuable experience I can use to leverage myself into a job I love. I know I’m not the only one in this situation and I believe this is life’s way of forcing us to come to terms with our individuality and find who we really are. Society has made many of us think we should have our lives together at 21 with nice cars and oversized homes. This has never, and will never be the case. The occasional Instagram model and YouTube star may make me think otherwise but nothing great ever comes easy. I have to be patient, work hard, and try to have a little fun along the way.

Everyone says it will get better so I’m going to take a leap of faith and believe it!

Kayli: 

Dear Diary,

Well, time sure does fly by! It’s been a year since I’ve graduated from college and I still have no idea what I am doing. Before I graduated college, I didn’t really know what I wanted to do afterwards. I wasn’t sure what kind of job I would want or what I would like to be doing for the majority of my week. When I landed the job I have now, I knew that it wasn’t going to be my forever job. Since that was the case, I decided to use this as an opportunity to learn about what I would like to do one day. FYI this is my very first job. I had internships in college, but not a real job. So, I was hoping to learn something from this one. All I’ve learned so far is that I hate my job. I’ve never felt like I was doing something so pointless before in my life. Like anyone could do my job, I’m not irreplaceable. I feel like just another cog in the machine. I know that sounds pretty dramatic or whatever, but that’s the tea sis. It has been really difficult the last six months since I’ve started working. However, I have come to a realization.

I am terrified of making the wrong decision. I feel like there is a path I’m supposed to be traveling down. Since I don’t know what this path looks like or where it leads, I’m just hoping that I’m following it. But what if I make the wrong decision and end up on a whole different path and it takes years for me to correct it and get back on track? Since I’m terrified of making a decision, I end up doing nothing. I end up just being stressed and anxious about what to do next. But that’s the problem. By not doing anything, I’m making a decision. I’m making the decision to stay exactly where I am, knowing that I hate it. That’s the wrong decision. I always wish I could wake up one day and everything would be solved and I’m happy and everything is perfect. That’s not going to happen. I have to put in the work. I have to follow what feels right at that moment. I can’t wait around hoping something will change, I have to change. I’m the driving factor in my life.

Well Diary, wish me luck! I’m hoping that I’ll find something that makes me happy. That I finally trust myself enough that I can stop second-guessing everything I do. That I finally step into who Kayli is supposed to be.

Horror Movies R ‘Us’

It is a damn shame that we are supposed to fit in all of our spookiness into one season of the year. Why should we cram all of the creepy, scary and terrifying parts of this world into one day? Your favorite ghouls don’t think it’s fair so we decided to bring some spookiness to you this spring! If you’re feeling extra spicy, you can check out our “Hallowpressed” series we did the entire month of October! We did a deep dive into urban legends, ripped horror movies to shreds, and scoured the internet for the scariest stories we could find!

This post Hayley and Kayli are going to discuss what scares them most in horror movies and review Jordan Peele’s newest installment “Us.”

Hayley:

From the beginning of time horror films were made to provoke our innermost fears using scary monsters as our source of terrors. These monsters come in all forms, from mythical legends like vampires and the undead to more realistic ones like serial killers with a thirst for suffering. But what happens when the scary monster isn’t some crazy werewolf or chainsaw wielding man? What if the monster is you?

In Jordan Peel’s new movie, US, this very theme is explored and asks the audience to challenge the way we look at monsters. The main character of the move, Adelaide, played by Lupita Nyong’o, fights against a clone version of herself and must face her past to save her family. Throughout the movie we find there is a group of people living in abandoned underground subway tunnels as a result of a government experiment gone wrong. Each person in the tunnels is a clone of someone living above ground and somehow each pair is connected. The underground clones rise to the surface and begin killing their other halves in an effort to get revenge. By the end of the film we realize that Adelaide’s clone, Red, was actually born above ground and Adelaide herself is the clone from below. This begs the question, who is really the enemy?

When I realized the twist I found myself confused as to whom I should consider the “evil monster”. Adelaide, who locked Red underground so she could live on the surface, became less likable, as I realized she stole Red’s life and took it as her own. I became sympathetic with Red, even though she had been the murderous villain the entire move. Once I knew why Red wanted revenge, I understood her actions while also understanding Adelaide’s quest to save her family.

Peel did a great job in creating a horror film in which the true monster was circumstance. Both Red and Adelaide were the same person; the only defining factor was where, and how, each woman grew up. One had love and opportunity, the other had hate and a lack of free will. Because the girls switched there is no denying the fact there is no difference between the subway dwellers and the humans above. No one group is better or morally superior than the other and this is what I feel Peel was trying to convey.

This theme reflects America’s current state on marginalized groups. Minority communities are often looked down on as full of criminals and people who chose their circumstances. The truth is, they are a product of an environment beyond their control and anyone given similar conditions would end up the same. Peele shoved a mirror up to the audience and wants it known the true monster isn’t them, it’s us.

 

 

Kayli:

I can’t even hide my love for horror movies, even if I tried. As soon as I get on Netflix, I am scrolling through the horror genre section like a kid in a candy shop. From a young age, my favorite memories were curling up on the couch each weekend and watching a scary movie with my family. We all know that not every horror movies is created equally and I do prefer specific topics much more than others. My favorite sub-genres of horror are zombies, demons/possession, ghosts/haunting s, and aliens. Now for my least favorite sub-genre I would definitely have to say that by far gory movies are the worst. I know that may sound hypocritical since a lot of people think scary movies equal gory movies. But there is a distinct difference between tasteful gore and bloodbath gore. The “Saw” franchise is a perfect example of this. The first movie highlights the desperation of the characters with the use of gore. Ol’ boy literally cut his whole leg off because there wasn’t an escape in sight. Later on in the series, they’re just going for the gusto with their over-the-top kills and it no longer adds anything to the story.

So, what makes a horror movie scary to me? Based on the sub-genres that I enjoy, there seems to be common theme between them. At the core of them, I think the scariest thing is the overwhelming sense of doom they create. With the impending zombie apocalypse, I find myself thinking quite often about my strategy on how to survive. But how would anyone really survive? My dude, if the whole world got infected by this disease is there really anywhere safe? Sure you might make it a couple of days, but what’s the end goal? There is a lot more of the infected than you. With demons and ghosts, how the hell are you going to fight something that is literally unseen? You could call in some priests to bless the place, but what are the chances that it actually worked? You wouldn’t know until it was too late. With aliens, it is a lose-lose situation. They’re either there to take over our planet because we are incapable of keeping it alive or they’re here to experiment on us. The seemingly inescapable terror these creatures invoke are the things that scare me the most. My favorite movies that highlight these sub-genres would be: ‘Train to Busan,’ ‘Hereditary,’ and ‘The 4th Kind.

I was super excited watching Jordan Peele’s ‘Us’ since I saw the previews for it at the end of 2018. I was pleasantly surprised how much I enjoyed ‘Get Out’, so I was expecting another banger with this film. Unfortunately, I felt kind of disappointed with ‘Us’. Now, that’s not to say that I didn’t like the film because there are lots of elements that I did enjoy. However, I think it could have had a stronger execution if there was a little bit more preparation. Like most films, the interpretation of the meaning behind ‘Us’ is highly dependent on the audience. Some can see it as a movie about us versus our innermost demons, others can see it as a commentary about those who have access to resources (the rich) versus those who don’t have that access (the poor). Some even say that the title ‘Us’ can be read as the ‘U.S.’ so the theme changes to a message about the U.S. as a country. Solid themes that I can definitely respect, but this movie experience was different than ‘Get Out’. I never felt tense. I was never on the edge of my seat wondering what would happen next. I feel like horror movies strive for you to be uncomfortable, either while watching the movie or with lingering thoughts after the viewing. That’s not how I felt with this movie at all. Some of my qualms with this film was the reasoning behind the tethered project. Like it was just weird how after all of that time, effort, and money the government kind of just dipped on the project. If their goal was to control the world above, why did they give up and just leave the tethers there? Why not kill them? This could also be another way to support the theme of the movie being about the U.S. The government does have a tendency to come in and try to fix things but leave before the project is complete or when things get hard. Also, the voice of the real Adelaide was not scary at all. It kind of broke the tension of the movie whenever she spoke. Overall, I don’t think this movie was terrible. It definitely didn’t live up to the hype that I put on it myself. I don’t know if I would classify this movie as a horror film though. Maybe more of a social commentary with horror elements. I would rate ‘Us’ a 6/10.

 

 

Links to Hallowpressed:

We’re Legends  Let’s Get Spooky!  But I Thought the Knife Was Dull! You Should’ve Called the Police Hallowpressed Finale

Do You Want to Take a Shower with Me?

This week’s post is dedicated to the fans! Instead of reading about how we feel about roommates, we decided to share some snippets from two listener “femails.” These were showcased on our episode Things Get Shitty… alongside different articles talking about crazy ass roommates, which are linked below as well! So sit back and get ready for the tea!

Special thanks to Robert and Aubrey* for sending in their “femails!” If you’re Pressed, send us an email at pressedpodcast@gmail.com!

Robert’s Story:

“I stopped, turned to him, and his back was to me. ‘What?’ I said. And he repeated himself and I was like wow okay he really DID just say That. 

He had said ‘Do you want to take a shower with me?’
I could feel my soul lift from my body and attempt to fathom what I had just experienced. I had no money, no family, 19 in the middle of Austin, and my roommate just Tried it. “

Aubrey’s Story:

Sophomore year this crazy bitch wouldn’t clean up her mess in the dorms so we had to get the PA involved and she got so frustrated at all of us.”

Check out Things Get Shitty… for the rest of the stories and more!

*names changed to protect their privacy

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/college/a58508/roommate-horror-stories/ https://www.businessinsider.com/these-ultimate-roommate-horror-stories-will-convince-you-to-live-alone-2018-3

https://brobible.com/college/article/worst-college-roommate-horror-stories/

Are WE The Crazy Roommate?

Hayley

            As you may have heard from our podcast episode, “The Good, the Bad and the Roommates from Hell,” Kayli and I had some interesting roommate stories. If you have ever lived outside your parent’s house I’m sure you have too. If you’re reading this and thinking about getting a roommate and need some advise I believe I have a few tips:

No Randoms:

If I could go back in time, I would evade having random roomies at all costs. This is way easier said than done and in many cases unavoidable. If for some magical reason you can choose your own living partner, I would. Or just live on your own like the little introvert we know you are.

No Best Friends:

Although tempting, best friends rooming together usually makes for a toxic mess. People who have grown living apart and build their relationship off of this dynamic often find it hard to move into the same living space together. All their little annoying habits could arise and you may find yourself cohabitating with someone you never really knew. My best advice for choosing your roomie is to find someone you are good acquaintances with. This should be someone who you generally get along with but not someone you would miss if you never spoke again.

Be Respectful:

Just because you like to live nasty doesn’t mean everyone else does. Please be aware that others have to use the same space as you and set time aside every week to make sure you do your due diligence in keeping the area clean. If you have your own room feel free to blow it up, we don’t care, just not the community areas cause’ that’s’ just rude.

Hopefully this gave you some insight when stepping into the world of living with others. It’s never easy, but if done right, you can make friends that last a lifetime.

 

Kayli

              Do I regret printing off my roommate’s subtweets about me? Do I regret printing off pictures of us, putting trashcans over their faces? Do I regret taping them all over their furniture and their doors? Not necessarily. I know what you’re thinking, “Kayli, that sounds a little extreme my guy.” I know, I know. But I think everyone should experience some level of crazy at least ONCE in their lives to get it out of their system. Roommates can be difficult. Especially if they tell you, the only black roommate, that they were glad to only have one black roommate because more than one would have been just too much. Having experienced living with both randos and friends in college, I do have some advice for you.

Don’t take shit from anyone:

                Literally, don’t take shit from anyone. On the other hand, don’t let these people walk all over you. If they say something or do something that makes you uncomfortable, let them know. It is awful living in a place that you aren’t comfortable in. I know that everyone wants to try to be as nice as possible to their roommates, but sometimes that niceness is just taken advantage of. Don’t let these fools feel like they can get away with bringing a bunny into your dorm and make you get rid of the body when it dies tragically. Stand up for yourself but don’t be rude about it. Being an adult is about compromise, right? So try it! Try to open up the dialogue before things escalate to a screaming match.

 

To Burn Bridges or to Not Burn Bridges:

I have read plenty of self-help books and they all talk about letting go of the past and being able to forgive everyone who’s ever annoyed you or wronged you. I may or may not have some trouble in this department of forgiveness. If someone has fucked me over and made no attempt to repair the damage, byeeeee! Now with both of my roommate situations, I’m not friends with either one of them. The first one, I do not regret whatsoever. I will never enjoy the presence of someone who speaks to me the way she did, or talk shit about me to everyone who would listen. The second situation is a little different. I really thought we were friends. We would hang out all of the time, watch shows together, go out together. It was fun! I do wish that situation would have played out a little differently. If you ever get into a fight with your roommate, who you liked, I would really figure out if the friendship is more important than the argument. That’s your call if you forgive them or not.

 

Haven’t checked out our podcast episode? Look up Pressed in iTunes to listen now! The Good, The Bad and The Roommates from Hell

S1, Ep27: Season Finale Part 2

It’s finally here: the last episode of the season. Like last week we read your “femails” and find out what makes our listeners pressed. We have some more love advice and new topic suggestions that will make you think. Even though this is our last episode for this season we will be back soon – stay pressed!

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S1, Ep26: Season Finale Part 1

The first season of Pressed is wrapping up so Hayley and Kayli thought it should end on a good note. Who else is better to help with this than our own listeners? We read your “femails” and answer any questions or comments you had about everything we have talked about this season. Its time for y’all to get PRESSED.

Missed the email deadline for this week? No worries! You can still send us a message for next week at pressedpodcast@gmail.com

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S1, Ep25: There’s No Suspecting Here

Your fav duo is now your fav trio! Hayley and Kayli have a special guest this week for our last bonus episode in the relationship series. Meet Alaisha, our longtime friend, who was kind enough to share her personal stories on cheating. Listen to find out what went down!

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S1, Ep24: We’re Seeking an Arrangement

Hayley and Kayli were so intrigued by older, rich people dating younger, broke people they decided to take a closer look. In this bonus episode, the duo sign up for a sugar baby website to look into the taboo world where people exchange money for “companionship”. Stay tuned this week to find out exactly what they uncovered!

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S1, Ep23: Need Your Student Loans Paid?

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. When life gives you rich, old men, make lots of money. In part 2 of the Unconventional Relationship series Hayley and Kayli dive into age-defying love affairs. We cover relationships with noticeable age gaps; from people who say they are truly in love to those who are in it for the money and “companionship”. Tune in to find out if age is really just a number!

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Articles: https://bigthink.com/robby-berman/the-troubling-persistent-phenomenon-of-sugar-daddies

https://www.thisisinsider.com/what-people-get-wrong-about-sugar-baby-lifestyle-2018-4

https://www.thisisinsider.com/couples-with-age-differences-make-relationship-work-2018-10

S1, Ep22: Three’s a Crowd?

Love is still in the air but this time it smells a little different. Instead of focusing on boring, basic affairs Hayley and Kayli explore unconventional relationships. In the first episode of the series, the duo talk about open relationships and even get some insight on  the matter thanks to one of Kayli’s friends. We also read “love letters” from our listeners and give them our best (and unqualified) advise. Again, special shoutout to Courtney! Thank you for letting us pry into your personal life and use it for content!

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Article: https://www.self.com/story/open-relationship-stories-rules-questions-people-ask-me

S1, Ep21: Shouldn’t We be Doing this Year Round?

From our Pressed family to you: Happy Valentine’s Day! This special holiday edition includes Valentine’s Day opinions from your favorite name-rhyming duo, Hayley and Kayli. Listen as these two discuss their experiences from this “special day” and find out if they think this is even an occasion worth celebrating. Either way, we wish you the best on this holiday, single or not, as I’m sure we can all find someone we love; even if it takes a little digging.

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S1, Ep20: If We Date I Get to be the Boyfriend

Cheating is one of the oldest topics in the book and yet, here we are! Hayley and Kayli explore the in and outs of cheating and give their opinions on modern-day infidelity. If you are questioning the loyalty in your relationship you have come to the right place! Stay tuned at the end for another “Is This Cheating?” segment as the girls debate what’s considered faithful and what is not.

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Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Articles:

What the Experts Say: 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/masculinity-today/201203/the-monogamy-gap-men-love-and-the-reality-cheating

http://theconversation.com/why-you-might-want-to-rethink-monogamy-in-2018-88217

https://betterhumans.coach.me/cheating-and-how-modern-relationships-successfully-navigate-the-fallout-34b1c405bb5d

Statistics on Cheating:

https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america

https://www.creditdonkey.com/infidelity-statistics.html

 

S1, Ep19: Hunchback of Relationships

Tis’ the season of Love! With February right around the corner Hayley and Kayli have decided to dive into modern love and try to figure out what it all means. For the first episode in the series, the girls talk about how social media has shaped present-day relationships; sometimes for the worse. Listen to find out what Hayley and Kayli think about following exes, liking provocative photos, and worse yet: YouTube couples.

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Articles: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/08/29/smarter-living/navigating-social-media-relationships.html   https://www.mydomaine.com/how-social-media-affects-relationships  https://www.businessinsider.com/dating-apps-not-helping-you-find-relationship-2018-7

S1, Ep18: Forgot Your Resolutions Already?

You’ve probably already forgot about your New Year’s resolutions but Hayle and Kayli haven’t! Remember those little commitments the girls made 3 weeks ago? Well, we are checking in! Listen to find out who kept their resolutions and who didn’t.

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S1, Ep17: I Hope Your Kid Stays Beautiful

Is anyone else concerned about the sanity of Instagram children? How about the sanity of someone in a relationship that thinks another person is after their partner? This week Hayley and Kayli chat about miscellaneous topics that are pressing them. Tune in to find out what other topics they stumbled across and see what other crazy work story Kayli has for us this week!

S1, Ep16: Apply the Pressure

Life is tough, especially when it seems everyone around you is pressuring you into fitting a certain mold. It’s even more difficult when that someone is yourself. Hayley and Kayli explore the constraints of expectations and how it can hinder your life goals. If discussing pressure isn’t enough, stay tuned to listen to some of the girl’s irrational fears and find out who is scared of asking for directions!

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S1, Ep15: Do I Have to Read?

Happy New Years from the Pressed duo! On the first episode of the year Hayley and Kayli try their hand at New Year’s resolutions and go over some of the most popular goals for 2019. The girls also discuss the recent relationship happenings with Cardi B which brings about a lot of questions. Stay tuned to find out!

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S1, Ep14: Boys Don’t Buy Us Drinks

One of the great things about being an adult is having to buy everyone gifts for the holiday season. Hayley and Kayli discuss this wondrous transition into adulthood leaving  one of them questioning if Christmas should even be a thing. The girls also discuss party etiquette and what is expected on the dance floor.

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S1, Ep13: Let’s Face it: We’re Ugly

We’ve all been through it: scrolling down social media sites and feeling, well, ugly. Hayley and Kayli dive into the world of insecurities and self love brought on by the thousands of perfected images we see everyday. But who’s responsible for our well being and how do we know when we are truly happy with ourselves? Listen to find out!

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S1, Ep12: Yes, We’re Negative

This may be the most true episode of Pressed yet; Hayley and Kayli dish out everything that has been, well, pressing them for the last week. This includes Thanksgiving shenanigans and ever pressing gender expectations. We’re not going to lie, its all over the place, but we promise you do not want to miss out!

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